There’s a good reason ‘50 Shades of Grey’ was such a hit, but you might not like it. I actually feel like a traitor to women’s lib here, but ladies we have thousands of years of conditioning in us that still makes us respond to the ALPHA MALE. Nothing gets our primal juices flowing better than the right man dominating us sexually – and if you’ve never experienced that – oooh you’re missing out!
Let me be clear, I’m not talking about bondage, violence or male ass-holery in anyway, I’m referring to the pleasure of a man you trust taking absolute control in the bedroom every now and again, so you don’t have to think!
Well you’ve been Mom in charge all day, you’ve juggled 17 balls or made 30 decisions at work already, you’ve got it; you are in control. Isn’t it exhausting? Don’t you want to switch off completely and not have to make another bloody decision? Then you get to bed and your man is expecting sex, or asking you if you like this that or the other he’s doing down south. Good god man – shut up and lick!
Women’s lib did an amazing job, I’m not knocking it, but our cries for equality and sensitive new age men has taken men so far away from their natural primal urge to be dominant that a lot of the poor sods are too terrified to take charge during sex anymore. They’ve been told they need to ask permission, ask what we want, be gentle, make-love to us, blah, blah.
Yes we like gentle love-making, but not all the bloody time! We also want to get shagged senseless like dirty little sluts. Not that we readily admit this; in fact society’s deemed it so ‘bad’ that we’re terrified of being judged.
But you know you want a man who is equal to if not stronger than you right? Mentally and emotionally we want someone who can ‘wrangle us’ who won’t put up with our bullshit, we respect men like that. We don’t want pussies, the truth is deep down we don’t really respect the sensitive new age men that we can walk all over, but we also don’t want assholes – we want someone who’ll stand up to us and not be a dick about it. Unfortunately finding men like that is rare these days.
.The one that brought me to this realization was a massage therapist, so he had the sensitive loving touch thing down, but before that he’d been a builder for 25 years, so he could also be a filthy bugger who manhandled me at the same time, it was the hugest turn on, I literally could not control myself around him and I didn’t even find him that physically attractive, but if he came within a foot of me and I could smell him, I wanted to rip his clothes off because he was such a ‘MAN’!Ladies it’s time to admit we want the ALPHA MALE back in the bedroom now and time to encourage your man to be one. Tell him that in the bedroom only you want him to take full control for once, tell him you’ll do whatever he orders you to do – and do it! Once he discovers the kind of power he wields he’ll get bored of just asking for the obvious and start experimenting. Encourage him to manhandle you, push you up against a wall or throw you on the bed.
And ignore that stupid voice saying ‘but he should know how to do this!’ he’s got 50 years of society telling him it’s bad to contend with, he needs coaxing too.
Imagine finally being able to totally let go sexually and let out your wild side – the side of you that screams, moans and roars in ecstasy – he will feel like a god for bringing that out of you and you, well you get the orgasms –win win baby!
